ADD/ADHD Understanding, Treatment, Strengths Part 2

Parent responses to the idea of their child having ADD/ADHD vary almost as much as reasons why children are often being diagnosed with this condition. Some parents deny the problem as long as they can. Men often have difficulty accepting that the symptoms are a problem. “He’s just being a boy” one man might say. Other men just don’t see these behaviors as anything to worry about, “He’ll outgrow it in time”. Parents are sometimes hard on each other, for example: “What’s wrong with your kid, can’t you control him?” Once parents decide something needs to be done, what should they do?

Medicine. There is a range of mediations now used to treat ADD/ADHD. Medications appear to help most with inherited or neurologically based characteristics. To evaluate the options of medications, parents should consult their family doctor or child’s pediatrician.

Treatment options vary based on the origin of the symptoms. Diet should be evaluated with medical help or with a nutritionist. The child’s history and family lifestyle issues should be evaluated. Many life stresses may contribute to the child’s inability to concentrate, impulsivity and hyperactive interactions. Further, evaluation should include an assessment of whose emotionality is regulating the family, the child’s or the adults. Additionally, the state of family emotional responsiveness and how it creates security or anxiety for the child must be considered.

Therapeutic approaches for parents in dealing with an ADD/ADHD child include:

Always be more calm and secure then they are capable of having a problem.

Don’t personalize your child’s problem, rather see your child’s difficulties as his/her own – something to assist them with.

Be patient, growing them up will take at least 18 years.

Limit excessive words, use actions, healthy touch, and acceptance to get them to comply. Don’t debate things based on their arguments.

Keep a healthy perspective toward them. Use accountability and love, a tough and tender combination.

Keep confrontation brief. State what is unacceptable and your belief in them beyond what they did.

Limit television and offer lots of interpersonal connection time – from reading together, sitting near each other, hugs and snuggling, to gross motor skill activities such as wrestling, kicking a soccer ball, running tag games, even going for a walk together or hike to explore a new place.


Other suggestions for dealing with this child include labeling feelings you see them exhibit and celebrate any observation of acceptable behavior that they might present. Children who talk about feelings are less likely to act them out. Sensitively help your child face their effects on others and help them learn to make choices based on the insight they gain.

Beyond correction and boundaries your ADD/ADHD child needs love and acceptance. Behavior will need to be managed throughout their development. It is important to not create insecure feelings in the child as you and other caregivers manage their actions and inattention. The key to healthy development for this child includes; moderating symptoms, keeping their sense of self-worth intact, and educating them about managing themselves as they mature. Love them wisely and help them grow.

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